With Thanks .

 

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  My story of domestic abuse and its recovery first started roughly three years ago and it was as I've honestly admitted several times before originally started for my own personal selfish reasons ....

     I unfortunately wasted 28 extremly long , tiresome and hard years enduring endless emotional , mental , controlling , financial and other forms of domestic abuse ( but never physical ) . The person I once was became almost evaporated into nothing and I spent several years forgetting who I really was , almost to the point of thinking maybe I didn't want to breath any more . I decided that after successfully rearranging my whole entire life by informing my now very much ex abuser that he had most deffinatly out stayed his foul abusive welcome and that all those crazy mixed up thoughts and memories wizzing around inside my head needed to be put in some sort of vague order so I began posting it all in a blog never really fully expecting anyone to bother reading it  . 

 

   🎉  Today, this will be my 100th post !!!!! 🎉

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   Surviving from domestic abuse has most certainly been an Interesting experience ( notice the classic English sarcasim used here ) and something I'm not in a big rush to do again but for all those stuck in a similar position as I once was in , I fully suggest to sum up all the brave strength you have inside and then take that first leap to freedom . Scary maybe to begin with but never forget there are endless groups and people out there who can help you when you decide the time is right .

   Always remember it's the domestic abuser with all the problems and never you !! 

    Has writting everything down on various posts helped in my recovery?...

                      Massively Big time!!!

   

   Putting my Story down somewhere has been a phenomenal help and I fully suggest others who are or have been involved in any forms of domestic abuse give it a go . Unlike mine no-one else needs to ever read what ever it is you decide to scribble down and again unlike me you don't have the added worry about any bad spelling mistakes being noticed . Everything written in my posts are 100% fact with no identities or locations ever mentioned in order to give myself some degree of privacy , granted it doesn't look or read just how horrible my life really once was but after 28yrs it does become a little bit difficult to remember each and every days individual abuse because it all sort of merged into one after a while  .

    Surviving from domestic abuse is now one of my many ongoing things in life and its a constant learning curve , not only has the person I once was gleefully returned but I now have this really annoying desire to be constantly positive in everything I try to do . My once selfishly written posts have now become more about finding that inner strength and positivity as well as proof that if I can survive my dark days then so can anyone else .

   Looking at other people's posts/blogs  about various other things most seem to be either promoting something or trying to sell something but that has never been my intention here , domestic abuse is a subject many avoid talking about and only those who have been there will ever truly understand it . It was never going to be a riverting ,  interesting , thought provoking or informative discussion to have with anyone but that doesn't mean it shouldn't be talked or written about . How will others learn or begin to understand if the whole thing is just swept under the carpet like it never existed  ?....

              🌍  WAKE UP WORLD !!!!!!! 🌎 

   Domestic abuse is happening right now to someone somewhere and ignoring it won't make it all go away , that person involved needs help and support right now and not ignoring . The ugly fact is that it can happen to absolutly anyone , anywhere at anytime regardless or race , age or sex . 

  Next time someone raises the subject about domestic abuse try talking to them about it instead of just changing the subject . 

    I've mentioned a couple of times before that if asked I would be fully prepared to stand up in front of a room full of total random strangers to discus not only my time of abuse but also domestic abuse in general , this is how strongly I feel about getting other people's heads out of the sand . I could spend my days researching all the many variouse groups , helplines and media sites all over the world that can offer help but unfortunatly it would all read a lot more boring than any of my posts and I feel others need more of a personal touch rather than just names or numbers ( If anyone needs to know that there's someone out there who will listern then my blog email can be found in my profile ) .

   What started out as a personal self help kind of therapy thing has now expanded onto various other social media sites and I plan to keep on going with it all for as long as possible . One day but most likely not in my lifetime others will learn to except that the only way to stamp out domestic abuse is to face the whole thing head on and those that domestically abuse others don't ever deserve to have a hiding place or have their feeble excuses for their actions believed .

    If you feel brave enough ( or bored enough 🤔 ) then by all means start my story of domestic abuse from the very begining and you'll notice how over time my attitude and strengh grows ( and I'd like to think my writing has improved a little bit too ) . I've never been afraid to write about the really unpleasant things and I've never set an age limit on it either because my theory is if domestic abuse doesn't have one then why should I .

   I'll finish today by saying a humongous thank you to all of you who have taken time to read because without you my message about domestic abuse and being positive wouldn't be able to take its journey around the world .  

Meanwhile I'm silently celebrating my 100th post by having my usual cup of tea and perhaps a chocolate biscuit or three all safe in the knowledge that people are actually reading my posts , taking notice and the scary monster thats been hiding under the bed called domestic abuse for far too many  years is slowly now being fought back 😊 .